The LIFT method
Looking Inside For Truth
Step by step:
- SET OUR OWN OBJECTIVE
- VOICE DIALOGUE
- THE INNER CHILD
- SYSTEMIC APPROACH
In every domain, 80% of success is psychological, 20% strategic or technical. To obtain unlimited results, the psychological barriers have to be broken down. To achieve his, we need to look inside ourselves to see what is happening. When we are faced with a difficulty, what we feel is not very pleasant and we feel vulnerable: fear, injustice, shame, anger, a feeling of inferiority, disappointment, lack of recognition, rejection, etc.
Our first reaction is to want to get away from all that as soon as possible, but there are always going to be difficult situations and an unresolved problem is a problem that is going to return. Dare to look at yourself and you will make great gains in terms of calmness and power.
The LIFT coaching method – Looking Inside For Truth – allows high objectives to be achieved in under 3 months and is based on the following principle:
* if things are to change, we must swing into action
* to swing into action, we need to feel confident and powerful
* to access our power, we must embrace our vulnerability
1. Set Our Own Objective
To be achievable, an objective must be precise, measurable in time, aspirational and visualisable.
When you get into a taxi, you don’t say to the driver “I’d like to go to London”. You tell him “I’d like to go to Cheapside in the city centre and I need to be there by a quarter to nine for a meeting at nine”. Using questions derived from NLP (neuro-linguistic programming), I help you to define precisely where you’d like to go and how long you want to take to get there. A good objective must always be aspirational: “A goal is a dream with a deadline” (Napoleon Hill, author of the best-selling Think and grow rich, which has sold almost 60 million copies).
And you must be able to project yourself. So I will enable you to visualise the realisation of your objective, because whatever has been achieved in this world first had to be imagined in the mind.
To arrive at the goal that you set yourself, you must first be 100% orientated towards it.
If you hesitate, it’s because you are in two minds, so your objective will be very hard to achieve. The part that wishes to achieve your objective and the part that is putting up resistance will have to enter into negotiation in order to move in the same direction. An exercise that I give you will help you to identify the 2 opposing parts inside you, to understand their functions and to bring them to work together to find an inner balance and greater agency.
3. Voice Dialogue
Within you, you have several personality components.
More or less consciously, you identify with certain components that you deem “good” and deny those that you judge to be less “good”. The more you prevent a part of you from expressing itself, the more it escapes you and manifests itself in an uncontrolled manner (anger, guilt, fear, shame). With this technique, we explore the contradictory parts within you: active/passive, optimistic/pessimistic, obedient/rebellious, executioner/victim. The objective is to gain a better understanding of and to welcome your inner contradictions to become freer and to express your talent fully.
4.The inner child
During childhood and adolescence, certain experiences have injured you.
As an adult, your childhood injuries can be reactivated by a person or a situation. You are then overwhelmed by your emotions and you can have excessive reactions. Work on the inner child is a work of repair and alleviation of these injuries, which allows you to take a step back and experience your emotions at their “proper” intensity.
You believe a certain number of things about yourself.
These beliefs are the result of your education, your socialisation and your cultural system. The important thing is not to know if your beliefs are true or false, but to know if they help you or limit you in your life now. It is possible to transform a restrictive belief into a helpful belief that helps to change behavioural habits.
6. Systemic Approach
As a child, you developed in a system: your family.
You had a place, a role, you interacted and communicated in this family system. Growing, you developed in other systems: classroom, group of friends, sports team. As an adult, in the context of your work, you are now developing in a system composed of a management, colleagues, clients, suppliers, etc. In an unconscious way, the relationships and dynamics established in your family and your past systems are going to reappear in your work life. The objective is to free yourself of these to open new possibilities. The systemic approach allow you to reinforce self-esteem, to understand others better and to improve your communication.
Are we ready to work together?
• you have a positive and optimistic nature (even if you are frustrated or facing difficulties at the moment), because coaching focuses on the solution not the problem.
• you are coming for coaching rather than for support meetings (therapy). Coaching is an approach that requires energy, motivation and concrete actions.
• you are aware that change can only come from you.
• you are ready to face up to your difficulties, to that which poses a problem for you.
• you are ready to dare to do new things to leave your comfort zone and obtain the results that you have set yourself.